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How Do Birth Mothers Feel About Adoption?

Curious about birth mothers’ emotions on adoption? Discover their untold stories, hopes, and fears. Adoption by Shepherd Care will reveal some of the deep complexities of this powerful journey.

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Adoption

The emotions a birth mother experiences during the adoption journey are a storm of feelings. It could include excitement, hope, sadness, uncertainty, doubts, and second thoughts. It’s like riding a rollercoaster, and it’s essential to prepare for this emotional ride. The initial excitement and hope that come with deciding to place your child for adoption can be incredibly empowering, knowing that you are providing your child with a loving home and all the opportunities they deserve. 

However, as time passes, there may be moments of sadness and uncertainty, which are normal. Processing these emotions is crucial. Finding healthy outlets like support groups or counseling is vital for birth mothers to validate and process their feelings healthily and to allow time and space to mourn the loss.

The Decision-Making Process for Birth Mothers

The decision-making process for birth mothers can be challenging and overwhelming. It’s crucial to remember that you are not alone in this process. One critical aspect to consider during your decision-making process is the importance of counseling. Seeking guidance from a professional counselor can provide you with the emotional support and clarity needed to make an informed choice. Another significant factor is whether an open or closed adoption would be the best fit for you. Open adoption allows for ongoing contact between birth parents and adoptive families, while closed adoption maintains confidentiality with limited or no contact after placement.

Navigating the Grief and Loss of Placing a Child for Adoption

As you navigate the grief and loss of placing a child for adoption, it’s essential to acknowledge and process your emotions in a healthy and supportive way. Processing the grief that comes with placing a child for adoption is an integral part of your healing journey. Allow yourself time and space to mourn the loss you’re experiencing. Seek support from trusted friends or family members who can provide comfort and understanding during this challenging period. In addition to seeking emotional support from loved ones, consider joining a support group tailored explicitly for birth mothers like yourself.

Finding Support and Healing as a Birth Mother

Finding support and healing as a birth mother can be a transformative experience that allows for growth and emotional nourishment. One of the most effective ways to find help is by joining support groups specifically designed for birth mothers. Support groups provide a safe space where you can connect with other birth mothers who have gone through similar experiences.

Long-Term Effects and Reflections on Adoption for Birth Mothers

Joining a support group can provide birth mothers like yourself with the opportunity to reflect on the long-term effects of adoption and gain valuable insight from others who have walked a similar path. These support groups offer a safe space to share your feelings, fears, and experiences with individuals who truly understand what you are going through. One of the long-term effects that adoption may have on birth mothers is its impact on relationships. As you navigate through the complex emotions associated with placing your child for adoption, it is not uncommon to experience challenges in your relationships with family members, friends, and even romantic partners. Joining a support group allows you to connect with others who have faced similar struggles and can offer guidance on maintaining healthy relationships while processing your emotions.

Summary

As a birth mother, you may experience a rollercoaster of emotions throughout the adoption journey. The decision-making process can be challenging, and navigating the grief and loss of placing your child for adoption is undoubtedly difficult. However, finding support and healing as a birth mother is possible. It’s essential to remember that the long-term effects of adoption vary for each individual, but many birth mothers find solace in reflecting on their choice. Remember that you are not alone, and reaching out for help can lead to healing and growth.

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Official Statement from
Adoption by Shepherd Care

It has come to our attention that the Hulu series Good American Family contains inaccurate information regarding Adoption by Shepherd Care (ASC) and the adoption of Natalia. We would like to take this opportunity to clarify the facts.

Contrary to what is presented in the documentary, ASC did not initiate any communication or have any involvement with Mr. or Mrs. Barnett in connection to Natalia’s adoption. The legal adoption process for Natalia was completed in the state of New Hampshire, where the original adoptive family resided, and was facilitated through a New Hampshire-based agency—not Adoption by Shepherd Care.

For those seeking further clarification, we encourage you to watch The Curious Case of Natalia Grace, Season 2, Episode 1, which clearly states that Adoption by Shepherd Care was not the agency responsible for facilitating this adoption.

We want to express our respect for all agencies and professionals engaged in this vital work. However, it is essential that accurate information is shared with the public and that the correct entities are acknowledged for their role in any adoption process.

At Adoption by Shepherd Care, we remain steadfast in our mission to place children in safe, loving, and permanent homes. We uphold the highest standards of professionalism, ethical practice, and compassion for the children and families we serve.

We respectfully request that the media and members of the public refrain from further spreading misinformation related to this matter. While we understand the interest in this case, we also urge respect for the privacy and dignity of all individuals involved. Adoption is a deeply personal and emotional journey that must be approached with sensitivity and integrity.

Adoption by Shepherd Care will continue its unwavering commitment to finding loving and permanent placements for children, guided by the principles of honesty, compassion, and respect.

For further information or media inquiries, please contact:

Joseph Sicajo*@*******sc.org
Michael Cardenasmi*****@*******sc.org

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Upcoming Adjustment To Our Domestic Fee Structure

We are writing to inform you of an upcoming adjustment to our Domestic fee structure, effective January 1, 2025. This change will apply to all active and waitlisted families as of the effective date.

We understand the potential impact of financial adjustments and are committed to providing transparency regarding these changes. This decision was made to ensure that we can continue providing the highest standard of services and support to the families we serve. If you have any questions or concerns about this adjustment, please do not hesitate to reach out.

Thank you for your understanding and continued trust in our organization.